You’ve come to the decision that it’s time to embark on a diet and get rid of those extra pounds you’ve been carrying around for too long.
But you’ve not even been at it two days when your partner’s bringing home boxes of chocolates from work, your friends are inviting you out for dinner every night of the week, and the kids seem to be enjoying tasty snacks right in front of you.
Is there a conspiracy afoot?
You’ll probably find yourself wondering, “Why won’t anyone support me through my diet, and why do they seem so steadfast on saying and doing the wrong things?”
If this rings true for you, don’t worry – you’re not alone.
In fact, experts suggest that even though most of this behavior is normal and entirely innocent, it isn’t always easy to get the family and friend support you need to diet.
But by getting support from those around you, you’re far more likely to succeed. So how do you do this?
Be Clear on How They Can Help
You might have said that you’ll need friends and your family’s help to stick to your healthy eating regimen, but have you stipulated just how you want them to help you?
Dieters often say that they’re going to need help sticking to their diet, and their family and friends will agree to support them. But ultimately, they don’t know how they’re supposed to do this.
This leaves them second-guessing how they can make it easier for you, and it often results in them saying or doing the wrong thing. Then you get frustrated, so does your friend, and the arguments snowball.
Instead, think about how people can help you along this journey before writing these down so they can see. It could be simple things such as going for a walk with you once a week or helping you find tasty low-calorie recipes.
Getting the Whole Family Involved
Even though asking the kids not to eat dessert in front of you might be easy, getting this same support while you’re all sat around the dinner table might not be.
If you’re the only member of the family who’s embarking on this healthy eating regimen, trying to change everyone else’s eating habits at the same time may be deemed unfair.
Of course, you could start cooking separate meals for you and the rest of the family. But you could also make family mealtimes more about working toward a healthier lifestyle for everyone.
So instead of harping on about how you or your partner are on a diet, make it more fun and engaging by saying we’re all going to try to eat healthily as a family.
Not only does getting the kids involved mean they’ll enjoy a healthier diet but it also educates them about nutrition, exercise, and so on, which will stand them in good stead for the future. And if you need to convince your partner a little more, mention that they’ll have more stamina, better sex, and will age well!
Everyone Needs Friends – But They Can Go It Alone
Although we all feel as though we need support from our friends and family, what if you’ve tried asking for, joking about, or even begging for their help and they still don’t seem to be supporting you?
Ultimately, this weight-loss program is down to you and you alone – you don’t need anyone else to achieve those goals you’ve set in place.
So while you want others to help, support, and encourage you, make this a mission for yourself and one you have full control over. This will play a huge role in how successful your diet is.
That said, there are going to be moments where you’ll feel like you need spurring on because you’re going to give up, and if you really can’t find support in those around you, look further afield.
Turn to Support Networks
There is a range of support networks available for people who are trying to lose weight, and as research suggests, group support does help.
For example, commercial programs can really help you stay on track by providing you with assignments, diet and exercise tips, support groups that meet once a week, and so on. In fact, research found for one commercial group that people lost an average of 10 pounds compared to a self-help group who lost just three.
Finally, even though close friends and family might not be as willing to help you on your road to weight loss as you’d hoped, you might find a friend of a friend or colleague that is. Ask around to see if there’s anyone else you know who’s looking to lose weight because one study demonstrated that people embarking on weight-loss regimens with their friends did better at maintaining their weight loss.
Of course, family and friend support will matter to you, but don’t be too disheartened if you can’t find the level of support you think you need. You should be able to find this from other areas and will probably find that as the pounds start to drop off your family and friends become a little more interested!